In this raw episode of Smiling Again, Kim speaks very openly about that feeling of being stuck after losing her husband to alcoholism. Watching a loved one die from alcoholism or addiction is the hardest thing you will ever witness and that’s why it’s important to commit to your own healing and to recognise when you get stuck. But what if being stuck isn’t the problem, but how we perceive it?
Here’s a glance at this episode:[4:12]I do feel that things happen as they should and they unfold as they should. But I think there comes a time when you realize that you are stuck, and I think it’s important to look out for those moments so that you know that you’re getting indications, that you are stuck and that’s a positive sign. It’s not a negative thing.
[6:12] That feeling that reminded me, that having been in that place where she was being so overwhelmed with grief that you just sit. Time passes. You don’t even know it’s passing. You don’t know that you’ve stopped. So when you start to realise that you’re feeling stuck and that realisation might just be a feeling of frustration or a feeling of unhappiness, when you feel those things, it’s time, it’s a gift to indicate to you that it’s time to move forward.
[7:12 Time is your companion. Time doesn’t heal all wounds. Like everyone says time is your companion. So it doesn’t matter how much time passes. It doesn’t have to be a set period of time.
[8:54] That’s your brain trying to protect you because it knows that you don’t recognize what you’re experiencing at the moment, but that’s okay. It’s okay, because you don’t want to go back there because there’s nothing nice about being stuck. There’s nothing nice about living day in, day out in that routine where you’re not feeling anything.
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