Last night I was having a chat with my sixteen year old daughter about someone she follows on Tik Tok. “An old guy”, she said, “who is actively choosing recovery.”
My daughter lost her dad to alcoholism when she was 11.
I share this with you for two reasons. Firstly, I’m so proud of her words – actively choosing recovery. I felt it was very wise of her to realise that recovery is a choice. It’s a choice that you actively participate in. Secondly, I’ve had to learn how to support my kids through their grief and that’s been heard, but I’ve learned a great deal. I keep working at it, desperately trying to do my best so they don’t fall into the generational cycle of alcoholism.
So here’s my girl following a 65 year old man on Tik Tok who shares his recovery journey. She sees his vulnerability, his desire to stay in recovery, his struggle and his truth. It makes me wonder if she follows him as a way of trying to understand her dad’s struggle. (I will ask her, but that’s a conversation for another day. One little bit at a time.)
She said, “Mum, you should do the same. Share your healing journey like he does.”
Our kids learn from us. They watch
Please actively choose YOU. Actively choose recovery and healing.
It is a choice. It is something you have to actively work at. Take care of yourself, every single day. It does work. We can all find joy again. And our kids and loved ones are watching and learning from us. I’m choosing every day to be the best example of self care, self compassion and healing that I can be, and to find ways to talk to my kids about the difficult stuff.
Everyone’s healing journey is their own, but you don’t have to travel it alone. Join the Blossome community for support and encouragement to build healthy new habits, stay accountable and help you keep moving forward with your healing. You are worth it.
Kim Moore is the Founder of Blossome CIC. She lost her husband Chris to alcoholism in 2017. She faced a difficult journey while raising 2 children alone, with her family living on the opposite side of the world. Kim founded the Blossome Community and The Pathway to Peace healing journey so no one would have to feel alone while enduring the trauma of a loved one’s battle with alcoholism or addiction. She is also on a mission to end the generational cycle of alcoholism and addiction in families.