Letting go of negative habits – habitual thoughts, habitual emotions and habitual behaviours – is the path to positive change. Happiness is often found when we take an honest look at what we can stop, not just what we should start.
As we head into December, this month presents us with a wonderful opportunity to explore what we might like to let go of before the new year. It’s time to leave behind the things that no longer serve us. It sounds wonderful doesn’t it? But then why is letting go so hard?
Letting go requires us to be brave, to trust. The reward is building the courage to feel and let emotions run their course, losing their power over us. The reward is freedom, and space for allowing joy, peace and happiness.
I’ve often been afraid of letting go. After an honest reflection on this, I had to admit I was scared. If I let go will I forget? As I’ve spent time working on letting go I’ve come to realise that we don’t actually forget, but we can begin to remember again without being afraid of what we might feel.
Be brave. Develop the discipline to push through the discomfort of letting go. Through my journey of healing and recovery after losing my husband Chris to alcoholism, I discovered many things that I had been carrying for years. I am sharing these with you here, to help you explore what you may be holding onto as well.
Here are 31 prompts that you can use this month to help you explore letting go.
- Let go of seeking happiness from outside yourself. Look inside and create your own sunshine. You can find happiness regardless of any chaos and sadness around you.
- Let go of perfection. Make peace with being good enough. Perfection doesn’t exist and chasing it only creates stress.
- Let go of lingering false beliefs. Thinking something doesn’t make it true. When you think of beliefs about yourself, stop and question if they are true, and if they are serving you in a positive way.
- Let go of past dramas. Life with someone battling active alcoholism or addiction is full of dramas. It’s easy to fall back into those memories from that past and experience them as though they are happening now. You can stop that by letting go of the past dramas.
- Let go of comparing yourself to others. Comparing ourselves with others often happens unconsciously. When you catch yourself, turn compassion inwards and say something kind to yourself instead.
- Let go of little annoyances. Don’t let the little things upset you. Accept them for what they are. Observe them and let them go.
- Let go of past regrets. Acknowledge that you are a human, and know that every human makes mistakes. With everything that was happening, you did the best you could at the time.
- Let go of grudges towards others. Embrace forgiveness and move forward.
- Let go of expectations. Trade expectations for appreciation.
- Let go of waiting for the right moment. The right moment will never arrive. Embrace now.
- Let go of the need to get everything done at once. Don’t overwhelm yourself. Do what you can, a little over time and it will all get done.
- Let go of trying to impress people. Focus on you and what you need, not worrying about what others think.
- Let go of limiting beliefs. Unravel the lies that you believe about yourself. Raise the thought that they may not be right and they will begin to lose their power.
- Let go of anger. Find a healthy way to express your anger, forgive and begin to let go.
- Let go of ticking all of the boxes on your to-do-lists. It will all get done when it gets done. It’s most likely that what you expect to get done isn’t realistic in the time you allowed.
- Let go of self criticism. Treat yourself as you would a best friend. Be aware of the criticism, acknowledge it then turn compassion inwards and be kind to you.
- Let go of the need to please others.
- Let go of the idea that it’s too late to start over. It’s never too late and you are never too young or too old. Just decode to start again.
- Let go of putting things off. Putting things off only makes them grow bigger and harder to face. Whatever you are putting off, use the Mel Robbins 5 second rule. 5-4-3-2-1-0 go.
- Let go of the guilt that keeps you stuck.
- Let go of the sadness. Let the tears flow. It will be ok if you cry.
- Let go of needing everyone to like you. Focus on learning to love yourself.
- Let go of fearing what your intuition is telling you. Is it fear or intuition? Learning the difference between to two is a big part of this journey.
- Let go of worry. Just breathe and be present. Engage your senses. Come back to the present moment.
- Let go of the need for everything to be perfect today. Remember, perfect doesn’t exist. Breathe, relax, slow down and enjoy the day.
- Let go of disappointment. Things rarely turn out the way we expect. That is the complexity of life. Acknowledge your feelings and be kind to yourself as you begin to accept things as they are.
- Let go of thinking others have it better than you. When you begin to think this way, you know you’ve got a pity party starting. Remind yourself that everyone suffers at times and remind yourself of all of the great things in your life and the great qualities that you have.
- Let go of thinking that things won’t change. Everything can change, even in an instant. Really it can. Think for a moment that it can.
- Let go of resentment. Forgive.
- Let go of excuses. Be honest with yourself. Healing takes a whole lot of honesty.
- Let go of the fears that hold you back. When you feel fear at the door, invite it in and have a conversation with it. Get to know it. What might you say to it? The more you are able to face the discomfort of fear, the more it will lose its powers and you’ll find ways to overcome your fear.
What is the one most important thing you want to let go of before the new year? Use this list to help you explore what you may need to let go of. You can download a calendar of daily letting go prompts here.
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Kim Moore is the Founder of Blossome CIC. She lost her husband Chris to alcoholism in 2017. She faced a difficult journey while raising 2 children alone, with her family living on the opposite side of the world. Kim founded the Blossome Community and The Pathway to Peace healing journey so no one would have to feel alone while enduring the trauma of a loved one’s battle with alcoholism or addiction. She is also on a mission to end the generational cycle of alcoholism and addiction in families.