One Minute at a Time

When you’ve been affected by someone else’s substance misuse, someone you love, things don’t feel fine. And it can stay that way for a very long time.

You might be going through the motions of life, coping, functioning, keeping things going on the outside.

But inside, it’s different.

You are different.

Life’s events have taken a toll, emotions silently piling up like layers.
Layers of grief – for who your loved one used to be, for what was lost, for the life that once was, for who you once were.
Layers of fear – of what might happen, or what already has.
Layers of guilt – for doing too much, or not enough.
Resentment, buried under the surface.
Exhaustion in your bones.
Loneliness, even in a crowded room.
Shame, for things that were never your fault.
And somewhere beneath it all…
Hope. Fragile. Flickering. Still there.

It doesn’t always crash in waves. Sometimes, it quietly shifts the ground beneath you. It changes how you feel about life.

We say, “I’m fine,” because the world expects it. So we keep going.
Mostly because we don’t know what else to do. So we just get on with it.

But the truth?

You might feel distant. Disconnected.
Like you’re going through the motions, not really living.

And over time, we drift.

Away from joy.
Away from meaning.
Away from who we used to be.

You try to do self-care, the yoga, the running, the things they say help, but it’s hard to find the time. There is no time.

Until there comes a minute.

A gentle reconnecting with life, one minute at a time.
And it starts with just one.

Maybe it’s a minute to breathe before you tackle the next item on your endless to-do list.

Maybe it’s a minute to stand up and stretch your aching back.

Maybe it’s a minute to pause and ask yourself, “What do I need right now?”

That minute can be anything you need it to be.
It starts with one. Then a minute each day. Then one here… another there.
Soon it begins to snowball, and slowly – quietly – you begin to prioritise yourself again.

It all starts with a minute.
One minute at a time.

This is your Sunday self-care reminder:
Take one minute, just for you.
You never know where it might lead.

If taking one minute feels difficult, you don’t have to take the next ones alone. The Blossome Community is here to walk alongside you – with self-care practices, connection, and compassionate support designed for those affected by a loved one’s addiction.

Explore what’s possible when you begin to prioritise you. Discover the Blossome Community →

Kim Moore

Kim Moore is the Founder of Blossome CIC. She lost her husband Chris to alcoholism in 2017. She faced a difficult journey while raising 2 children alone, with her family living on the opposite side of the world. Kim  founded the Blossome Community and The Pathway to Peace healing journey so no one would have to feel alone while enduring the trauma of a loved one’s battle with alcoholism or addiction. She is also on a mission to end the generational cycle of alcoholism and addiction in families.